Map is not reality
Each individual has a model of the world and what they believe may not be reality. Maps are there to guide us and they are suppose to represent reality as much as possible, but that is not always the case. The mind aims to please us and develops shortcuts to simplify reality.
Our model of the world contains values, beliefs, skills and habitual behaviours that assist us to navigate the world, a bit like GPS. However GPS is good for helping us know where we are at all times, but it is not always useful for helping us get to where we want to be. After all we wouldn’t confuse a menu with a meal or a map with a road.
Our mind uses preferred maps in situations e.g. when in relationships. Our maps are not real and can become outdated. They may be resourceful at one time in our lives and limiting at another. We can never know a thing in itself, we can only know our internal translation of it, as it goes through significant changes