Glenda ran an events management company, which she started over 12 years ago. Her monthly business networking events where consistently attended by around 150 people and provided a steady source of income. For the last 4 years, Glenda thought about expanding her business, which included offering consultancy; training facilitators to expand the network country wide, as well as taking the network online, yet something was holding her back.
Through self-inquiry, Glenda realised that she had a fear of success that kept her firmly within her comfort zone. She discovered that for things to grow she would need to ask for help, (which she struggled with) and that there may be more demands on her time. Only through asking the right questions and daring to challenge her feelings and lack of actions was Glenda able to identify and start to move beyond what was really holding her back.
Exploring your inner world and asking questions is only part of the process; capturing and recording your thoughts, feelings, words and actions is imperative as this allows you map your journey and see your progress over time. Many people have said that once they get to a place of self- understanding, they feel a sense of personal power because they understand (or overstand) the what lies behind how they think, feel, act and respond in life.
Yet, it’s important to have a healthy balance between taking responsibility for what happens in your life and external influences and situations, which are beyond our immediate control. Thus, self-care is a necessary part of the journey to ensure you are not beating up on yourself, always finding things that are wrong, without seeing the good and being aware of your accomplishments.
Also, even though self-coaching refers to something you undertake yourself it does not have to be a solo journey. You can still engage with coaches, mentors, therapists and people in your life to assist you with gaining clarity, and to strengthen a process that never has to end. Overall, one of the greatest achievements can be self-actualization, which Maslow in his ‘hierarchy of need’ theory describes as a place when an individual achieves a sense of purpose and meaning in life.
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